Are You Eligible Or Can You Create Lust and Sexual Compatibility

Usually, lust(strong sexual desire or a passionate desire for something) and sexual compatibility are things that just exist without much
definition. When you glance over at a stranger, you may feel lust without knowing exactly why. It has a little bit to do with the way the person looks, and a bit to do with the way the person moves, smells, sounds, as well as what you like.Then when things “just click,” you know you're compatible.But what if you want (or already have) a relationship with someone who is really great, but who turns you off physically? It is possible to feel sexually aroused around someone who isn't really your type. There are ways that you can learn to be turned on to someone who normally turns you off. Try to find some little thing about the person that you like, then try to feel turned on by that. If that works,then maybe little by little you will start to get more turned on to the person.So give it a chance. However, if after several weeks or months (years?) you still can't get into the person, then it is probably time to move on. If you aren't turned on to someone, maybe it's just not meant to be.

Also, you can sometimes influence your compatibility by making compromises about the type of sexual behaviors you enjoy. If the person has what it basically takes to turn you on but does not fit your ideal for the type of sex you like to have,you can work together to slightly alter what each of you desire out of your sex
life, thereby creating some sexual compatibility. However, it is not good for you to sacrifice what you really want from your sexual relationship. If you are compromising too much, then you should conclude that you are not compatible and move on.


What Do You Find Sexy?

To determine even more about how you can have interesting and amazing sex, you need to figure out what “sexy” means to you. One way to do this is to construct a sexual scene that you would want to be part of. I do not mean a “sexual fantasy,” because
sometimes you do not want to act out your sexual fantasies . Instead, think of an actual sexual scene that you are 100 percent sure that you would want to act out, or even your favorite sexual experience of all time. After you examine your example, you will notice all of the things that you find sexy.



Here's an example of how one woman did this exercise: She tried to think off the
top of her head about what is sexy to her. Starting with the most basic descriptions, I asked her to get as detailed as she could. Here's what she said, “I find tall, dark, handsome men sexy. I'd like him to be 6'1”. He should have a lot of wavy hair. His skin should be smooth and deeply tanned. He should be wearing red silk boxers and nothing else. He should be holding two glasses of champagne (a white sparkling wine from champagne),one for him, one he hands to me. He is sitting with me on the porch of his house.Then after we toast ‘to us,’ he says, ‘I love you.’ He kisses me with lots of tongue,gently carries me into the house and lays me down on his bed. He slowly, tantalizingly(comes from tantalize which meaning is torment or tease with the sight ) removes my clothes. Then he says to me,‘I'm gonna do you so hard you'll scream(make a long,loud,piercing cry or sound expressing extreme emotion or pain) for more.’ I say, ‘Do me, baby. Do me.’ Then we have lots more sexy talk and we have sex for hours and hours in every position imaginable(possible to be thought of or believed).”The woman who came up with that scene then took a look at all of the things that she found
sexy: a tall man, wavy hair, soft tan skin, silk boxers, his bed, champagne, tongue kissing, when a man takes her clothes off her, romance, love, sexy talk, sexual consent, and having sex for a long time in lots of different positions. This helped to give her a better idea of what she wants,what to look for, and when she finds it, how she can allow herself to actually have that sexual experience. Try this activity a few times, with a few different scenarios(a setting,in particular for a work of art ), and see what you come up with for your own ideas on what's sexy.If you have a fantasy of your ideal sexual partner, then you are on the way to making that fantasy a reality. Visualization(make visible to the eye) can work, so try to visualize what you think is sexy, and you may get closer to finding it. Now that you are figuring out what you find sexy, you're on your way to having interesting and amazing sex. Plus, you will be given more examples about how to ask for what you want sexually.For now, you just need to keep a positive attitude about sex. You need to most importantly see yourself as sexy! Then find a partner who thinks you are as sexy as you are!