What Will Be Your Attitude Adjustment And Feelings About Sex

If you're still carrying around guilt and your feelings about sex are still getting in the way of your pleasure, you need to change them. There are many ways to do that. Tune into what you find sexy, without being affected by what your upbringing taught you. Keep in mind that you have the right to choose whether or not you want to have sex, when you want it, and with whom. Sexual fulfillment is yours for the taking, if you believe you can have it. Having interesting and amazing sex takes a high comfort level, a lot of information, some skills, and a partner who feels the same way.

Adjusting your attitude means seeking out more information about sex with the hope that you'll feel free enough to have fun when you're doing it. Were you embarrassed when you brought this book to the checkout at the bookstore? Or maybe you felt funny when your friend or lover gave it to you. What if someone found out that you owned a sex manual? Would you feel like you have to make excuses, maybe: “Um, that was given to me as a joke!” Well, many people feel that way. Here's where your attitude adjustment comes in and gives you the power to enlighten yourself about sex.

Instead of feeling embarrassed, think of yourself as wise for wanting to learn more, about sex.You're doing something great for yourself by learning about sex. Instead of feeling afraid that other people will think that you are a pervert, think of them as the losers who aren't as in touch with their sexuality. You can increase your information by reading this book and practicing what you read.

Talking About Your Sexual Past Can Increase Your Comfort Level:


You can increase your comfort level with sex by talking about your sexual influences and sexual history with someone who has the experience to help you understand it better. You should find someone you trust, a counselor or therapist. Make sure this person has the experience to help you discover how your past influences your present. Then sit down together when you have time and talk to this person about your sexual history. The following items will give you some ideas for sharing:

• Talk about what your mother and father taught you about sex.
• Discuss other memories you have that involved sexuality in your childhood.
• Talk about the attitude that you had toward nudity and your body image as a child and how (and if) that changed as you've grown.
• Talk about what you remember about your first period (for women) or wet dream (for men).
• Discuss what you thought about masturbation, and when, if ever, you first felt completely comfortable doing it.
• Talk about what you learned about sex from your peers, the media, and sex education.
• Talk about what your early dating experiences were like.
• Discuss why and when you lost your virginity, and what it made you think about sex.
• Discuss how your dating and sex life today is impacted by any of the things that you went
through when you were younger.

If you're not getting what you want out of your sex life, it may be because of some attitudes or
experiences that you had years ago. Once you examine all of those issues, you can start to put
the pieces of your sexual past and present together. The more you talk about your issues, the
faster you can work on resolving them.

You do not need to tell a new partner all about your past. In fact, you might want to keep the
details of your sexual past to yourself. (Especially if you are using condoms for disease
protection anyway.) But you might want to share personal aspects of your history with a partner
who you love, so the person gets to know you more intimately. Sometimes being able to talk
about your sexual past and your sexual attitudes and values can be important. To learn more
about how and when to talk about sex.

Remember, you goal should be to understand yourself and your sexuality. Once you get past the
myths, schoolyard whispers, and influences that confused you, you'll realize that sex is a
wonderful part of your life.