How to Talk About Sex And How You Make Your Sex Enjoyable:

There are so many things you can do with your mouth to make sex more enjoyable; talking is at the top of the list. Here are some pointers that might make the discussions go more smoothly:


• Start by talking about sex in subtle (making use of clever and indirect methods to achieve some thing) ways. For example, over dinner conversation mention topics in the news that involve sexual issues. Or say something like: “I just saw an interesting story in a magazine about people who abstain from sex because they are so afraid of AIDS. What do you think of that?” That way, you'll be talking about sex, without getting too personal right away.
• Make sure it's the right time and place to talk. Too many people wait to talk about sex until they are in the heat of passion. Or they bring it up when one of
them is tired, distracted, drinking, or at some other inappropriate time. You should talk about it when you are both awake, not fooling around, not drinking and you have time to talk.
• Think about what you want to say first. That way at least one of you will be prepared for the conversation.• Talk about your feelings rather than talking about how you think your partner
feels. Use “I” statements. For example, say “I feel lonely when I want to kiss you and you want to pull away.” Instead of saying, “You must be afraid of intimacy (an intimate act,especially sexual intercourse) because of the way you pull away from me when I try to kiss you.”
• Be positive. Don't tell your partner, “I hate it that we make out so much, but we never go all the way.” Instead, concentrate on the things you like first, putting a positive spin on it: “I love the way it feels when we make out. I think it would feel even better if we went all the way.”
• Be specific, honest, and explicit. If you want to ask your lover to get tested for a sexually transmitted disease, don't beat around the bush and say, “I waswondering if you're safe.” Be direct. Say: “Even though I still want to use condoms, I think it would be a good idea if we both got tested for sexually transmitted diseases. Will you do that?” Or if you want to tell your lover that you have orgasms more easily when you're on top, then don't say something like, “I like to have sex in any position.” Say: “Anything is fine, but I orgasm best when I'm on top.” You should be able to talk that explicitly with your partner so that you can get what you want out of sex.


• To make sure you understand each other, after you partner speaks, paraphrase back to him or her what you think he or she just said. That way you can double check that you are not misinterpreting anything, and get clarifications when necessary.
• Ask a lot of questions if you need to discuss or negotiate a topic. It will help you resolve the real issue. Such as if your partner says your kissing could use some work, try asking, “Is there anything I can do to make it more appealing when I try to kiss you.” Or “Do you think you know why you don't like kissing me.”
• Once you know what your issues are, try to talk about your options. When it comes to sexuality there are usually several ways to resolve issues. Discuss them all, then compromise about what will work best for your relationship.

This might all seem like a lot to remember when all you want to do is have a conversation about sex. But because sex can be an embarrassing and awkward (causing or feeling uneasy embarrassment or not smooth or graceful)subject for so many people to talk about, these tips will really help. Also, the more you talk about sex, the easier it will become.

Q: I am 25 years old. As a child, I took a fall that left a wide scar (a mark left on the skin or with in body tissue after the healing of a wound or burn) on my left eyebrow. I use a pencil on it every day to hide it. Can the hair in that area be re-grown? Is there a solution other than using an eyebrow pencil? Nazia Hassan

A: Scarred tissue destroys all the hair follicles in the area, so re-growth is not possible. But you need not live with a cut in your brow or have to pencil it in every day. There is permanent method of introducing safe pigment of mineral and vegetable origin into the upper layer of the skin. An anaesthetic gel is used to numb the pain. The pigment (a dry powder which constitutes a paint or ink when mixed with oil or water ) used is deep brown as opposed to black, which may leave the scar looking blue-green. So go ahead and get rid of your scar permanently.
Q: I am a fair, 20-year-old with red, flushed skin. Occasionally, I get pimples, though they appear mostly on my nose. The ones that have appeared in the last few months, however, are refusing to go away. They have also changed the shape of my nose so that it looks bumpy and large now. Please help. Mehar Bukhari

A: You are suffering from rhinophyma (medicine plastic surgery performed on the nose) , which causes your nose to appear uneven because of the hypertrophy (phsiology enlargement of an organ or tissue resulting from an increase in size of its cells) of the sebaceous glands (a small gland in the skin which secretes a lubricating oily matter (sebum) into the hair follicles to lubricate the skin and hair); it happens in longstanding cases of rosacea (medicine a condition in which certain facial blood vessels enlarge,giving the cheeks and nose a flushed appearance) . It also explains the flushed, red appearance of your cheeks. Sensitive people are more prone to the condition. Keep aggravating factors like stress, sunlight, hot food, hot baths, coffee, seafood under control. As for treatment, your doctor may start you on a course of antibiotics and topical applications, or prescribe other medication after doing some tests. Don’t worry, the condition is completely curable (make healthy again after suffering from a disease or medical condition).
Q: I am going to Sweden for a holiday. Since it will be cold there, how do I care for my skin? Do I need to use sunscreen? Saira Bano

A: You will surely need a sunscreen to protect your skin from the UV (ultraviolet) rays, more so in Sweden because the rays there reflect off the snow and cause more damage. Reapply the sunscreen every two to three hours. Besides that, carry a good moisturiser to save your skin from dehydration. Enjoy your holiday.

Beauty Issues

Q: I am 31 years old, unmarried. I am in good health but I have freckles on my face. I tried many products and consulted dermatologists (the branch of medicine concerned with skin disorders) too but to no avail. Please help me to suggest some home made tip to get rid of these. Kate Garry Hudson

A: Freckles may be described as flat, round, dark coloured spots that range in size from about 2mm to 4mm. Freckles could be the result of pigment precipitation in one particular place, as generally the skin, surrounded by the spot is lighter in colour. Freckles are sensitive to the UV (ultraviolet) rays and hence appear more prominent during or after exposure to sunlight. Here are some natural remedies that will help you deal with freckles. Apply sour cream on your face. Gently wipe it off with a soft tissue and top it up with a moisturiser. Lemon juice is a tried and tested remedy for treating freckles. Apply lemon juice with your fingers on the affected area it bleaches the dark spots.

Q: I am getting married in about one year and worried about my complexion that is very dull. Beauticians suggest me that night creams and facials are good for me. Can you tell me a little about these creams and facials? Jennifer Garner

A: There is a variety of whitening products and facials, nowadays available in market. Your beautician would suggest you what kind of products or facials are necessary for your skin type by assessing you personally. We can also provide you with the same but for this you have to visit us personally.

Q: My daughter is 4 years old, her hairs are too rough and dry. I give her hair a regular oil massage but everything turns useless. Please tell me what should I do to make her hair look healthy and shiny? Maria Wilson

A: Hair is made up of keratin (any of a group of fibrous proteins forming the main structural constituent of hair,nails,feathers,hoofs,claws and horns) , a type of protein. They tend to be the body’s barometer that indicates good or poor health. There are three types of hairs that grow on the human scalp and dry hairs are one of them. Here is a tried and tested home-made remedy for dry and frizzy hair. Try this out. Add two tablespoons of gram flour (besan) in a cup of coconut milk. Apply it on scalp and hair, massage gently. Leave it for about five minutes and rinse. Mix a teaspoon of honey with 4 cups of warm water and apply on hair, after shampooing. Honey acts as an intensive moisturiser for hair. Do not rinse and let them dry normally for extra-shiny, sweet-smelling and soft hair.

Q: How often can I dye my hair ? Zohaib Hassan

A: Hair can be coloured as long as the hair fibre is strong and the scalp is not sensitive. If hair is spongy or breaks easily, use a semi-permanent hair colour formulated for damaged hair. Also, begin a rigorous conditioning programme immediately. Generally, touch-ups should be done after every four to five weeks, depending on the growth of hair.As soon as you find that the roots have started looking different from the rest of the hair, it is time to go in for a touch-up.

Q: I mix together sandalwood, milk, lemon, grass serum, rose water and orange scrub but when I apply it on my face I feel itching. It is also very difficult to keep it for a few hours. I am a student and I have more outgoing activities, what I should do to keep my skin fair and to maintain its glow. The paste I applied is beneficial or not? Amna Haq

A: You didn’t mention the amount of each ingredient you mixed and what was the consistency of the mixture you applied, either way you might get some kind of allergic reaction from any of the component that is used. You can find whatever the cause of your skin allergy is by recalling which ingredient you used for the first time. To prevent your skin from becoming blemished and wrinkled, keep yourself safe from the sun rays. Mix some sunscreen with your moisturiser and apply it on your face before stepping out. Do this every day, even in winters. If you have to be out in the sun for long, wear a hat or carry an umbrella to shield yourself from the sun rays. If your skin is tanned, use lemon on your face. Lemon contains ascorbic acid which acts as a natural bleach. It removes tanning naturally and makes you fairer. Take a raw papaya and mash it to pulp. Apply the pulp on your face once in a week to make your skin soft and smooth.

Q: Please suggest a home remedy for the removal of facial hair. Kiran Khan

A: Mix some milk or curd into some ground chickpea. Add to it a pinch of turmeric powder. Keep the consistency of the paste thick. Once the paste is ready, apply a thick layer on the face and neck region. Leave it to dry and then rub off the paste till it starts coming out. The fine hair will be peeled away with the paste.

Some Information About Having Sex

Once you know that you want to have interesting and amazing sex with someone, you need to be able to get what you want. And what better way to get what you want than to ask for it?Sometimes a back
rub is just a back rub, not a sign that you want to have sex. That's why you need to talk about sex! What happens if you've talked about sex, even had sex together many times, but now when you're ready for sex, your partner is happy to just go to sleep? Sometimes problems occur when you and your partner are out of sync in the sex department. However, there are ways to talk this through, so you can get what you want out of your sex life.




The Things You Should Talk About Before You Have Sex :

You're about to share the night, your bed and your body. First, you need to share some information with your prospective partner. If you ask honest questions and give honest answers
about sexual health and protection, and about your sexual interests,then this will bring you closer together, as you will be learning intimate things about each other. Following are some of the things you should talk about before you have sex.


• What sex means to you emotionally, and how it will affect your relationship.
• How often you like to have sex, and what types of sex you want to have.
• How you feel about your body, and what ways you especially like to be touched.
• How you feel about monogamy, cheating and if you will be faithful.
• What kind of birth control you will use.
• What kinds of condoms you will use for disease protection.
• Whether you want to get tested for sexually transmitted diseases.
• How you would handle an unintentional (not done on purpose) pregnancy.

If you both agree on these things when you talk, then you may be sexually compatible. Yet there may be several of these issues that you will want to discuss not just to find out if you are compatible, but also to find out what to expect from your sex life together.


You obviously need to talk to your partner about sex before you ever have sex.But there are many other times when you also have to talk about it, such as if you think you might have a sexually transmitted disease, or if you want to try a sex act that you've never done before. So for your sexual health and happiness,you should talk about sex as often as necessary.

Uses Of The Wheatgrass :

Is The Wheat grass Is Most Powerful Health Supplement Or Not/Medication that's literally dirt-cheap when you make it yourself:


The Nutrient Density in One Ounce of Wheatgrass is Equivalent to 2.5 pounds of the choicest vegetables.
* Produce it yourself for 2-8 cents an oz. instead of paying juice bars $1.80 - $3.60 an ounce!
* No green thumb required. Anyone can do this and it takes less than 30 seconds a day.
* You don't need a yard or a garden. Everything can be done indoors.
* You can easily grow the most nutrient dense, natural, absorbable supplement on the face of the earth and it's literally dirt cheap.




How to Use Wheat grass:

Whe suggest drinking wheatgrass juice in small amounts throughout the course of the day, always on an nearly empty stomach. In general, two to four ounces every day or every other day is sufficient. Slowly sipping small quantities of the juice gives your body an opportunity to get used to its taste and effects. Taking one-ounce- to two-ounce drinks straight or mixed with other juices (Greens only) and sipping slowly will help prevent nausea or stomach upset. On a healing regime, we suggest you drink one or two ounces up to three or four times a day with one day of rest periodically. As a general rule, more is not better. Two ounces at any one given time is all any one person will need.

Use Wheatgrass Juice as a Beauty Treatment :


According to Ann Wigmore, wheatgrass juice can be applied to the skin to tighten loose and sagging skin. Rub wheatgrass juice into the scalp, leave on for 2 hours before shampooing. Juice a trays of wheatgrass to add to your bath water


What Are The Benefits of Wheatgrass :

Reduces cholesterol and blood sugar levels, Improves liver functions, Relieves pain and stiffness of arthritis and bursitis, Alleviates post-menopausal side effects, Increases energy levels and reduces fatigue, Natural detoxifier, Aids in Digestion, Rich in protein, Rich in vitamins, Strengthens immune system Rich in nutrients, Relieves arthritis.

• It fights against infections and improves the body's ability to heal wounds.
• It helps in scalp treatment for lusterless hairs.
• It helps in removing heavy metals from the body.
• It also act as a cleanser and astringent for all types of skin
• It absorbs 92 out of the known 102 minerals from the soil.
• It also helps in treating skin problems like eczema or psoriasis.
• Chlorophyll present in wheatgrass helps to improve blood sugar disorders.
• It helps in preventing tooth decay.
• It also helps in eliminating body odors.
• It helps in boosting sexual stamina. The high magnesium content in chlorophyll builds enzymes that restore the sex hormones.
• It aids in the prevention and fight against cancer.
• Chlorophyll in wheatgrass also helps to purify the liver.
• It stops the growth of harmful bacteria.
• It is an ultimate energizer for body and mind.
• It is useful in treating constipation and keeping the bowels open.

Q: It is said that after oiling, a hot towel treatment is necessary? How can I do it at home because it’s difficult to handle a hot towel? Antara Mali

A: Oiling has its own affect on the scalp; hot towel treatment helps to increase the absorption so that a deep penetration of oil is achieved. In this way the effectiveness of oiling your hair increases. It is better to have this done by a professional but if you want it to be done at home then do the following.
First, do proper oil massages then take a medium size towel and dip it in hot water. You can keep the temperature to your endurance, wrap the towel around your head and keep it for at least an hour.

Q: I am 21years old. My problem is that I have acne; please help me get rid of it as soon as possible.Bindhu Madhavi

A: Wash your face at least twice a day with mild soaps or non-cleanser mild soaps. Avoid using towel and touching your face. Similarly, do not pick, rub or squeeze the pimples as it aggravates (make(a problem,illness etc) worse) them and is very painful. Home remedies (a medicine or treatment for a disease or injury) for acne are preferred as these are mostly found to be very effective. Pulverise (reduce to fine particles) uncooked oats into powder and make it a paste by adding water. Apply this paste and leave it until it gets dried up. Then wash it with lukewarm water. This is one of the useful home remedies for acne.

Q: I am a 19-year-old girl. My problem is that during the winter season my skin becomes dry and rough and prone (lying flat,especially face downwards ) to acne (a skin condition marked by numerous red pimples resulting inflamed sebaceous glands). Achla Sachdev

A: Dry skin is a problem to many people. It can be caused by frequent washing with hot water, using non-moisturised soaps, harsh weather, some medication or disease. So, don’t use hot water or take too long to bath; use lukewarm (only moderately warm) water for hot bath; use alcohol-based soaps and drink plenty of water. For remedy, apply some honey to the skin to heal and moisturise the skin and promote dead skin tissue’s re-growth. Mix some honey in cold milk (preferably cow or goat milk) and apply on face, hands and feet.

Q: I am a 23-year-old girl; I have split ends in my hair, although I trim and oil, they start appearing after sometime, I have also used your egg yolk treatment. Please suggest an alternative remedy. Saniya Mirza

A: Split ends occur when the protective cuticle is stripped away from the ends of hair fibres. It happens when the natural oils from the scalp fail to reach the ends; other reasons are dry scalp, exposure to extreme temperatures and chemical products like relaxants and hair colour, lack of nourishment, excessive dying, vigorous brushing and backcombing may cause split ends. Other factors include use of metallic combs and brushes, brushing hair when it is still wet, use of uncovered elastic bands on the hair, satin pillows and repeated use of heated appliances like iron or hair blow dryers. Hair moisturizing mask made of mashed up avocado when applied to damp hair will prevent split ends effectively. Make sure you leave it on your hair for at least 20-30 minutes; you can also add hot olive oil to it. If it is hard to get avocado (a light green color like that an avocado's flesh) then use mayonnaise (a thick creamy dressing consisting of egg yolks beaten with oil and vinegar) in its place. Apply it once a week. Shampoo your hair after every workout or strenuous exercise, because the salt due to perspiration will erode your hair. Apply a conditioner regularly after every wash.

Q: I have a pale skin and I have had painful little pimples on my cheeks and under the lips since the past few months. Please suggest a remedy.Amrita Arora


A: A pale skin is very delicate and can be hydrated with a tinted moisturiser. Blend it evenly with fingertips; the sunscreen should have an adequate SPF. A good quality foundation gives an unblemished base for the skin. Regular management and care is essential whilst cleaning, moisturising and exfoliation (wash or rub the skin with a granular substance to remove dead cells )should be a regular ritual. Masks and facials revitalise the skin. Products should be branded, safe and potent. Remove makeup worn during the day with a mild cleansing lotion. A balanced diet and a regular doze of vitamins and exercises will keep you fresh and active. Relax your body with occasional visits to spas and beauty clinics. There are a wide variety of tried and tested home remedies that can treat pimples in an effective manner. A popularly known pimple remedy is to rub garlic on pimples several times a day.
Q: I am 18years old. I have some kind of an allergy on my face; I also have an acne problem. What should I do? Noor Malik

A: Skin allergies are a very common problem and can be quite an irritation if you haven’t been able to correctly identify the root allergen. The first course of action is primarily to identify the root allergen by recalling the foods you consumed and objects you interacted with just before the outbreak. You can try a very effective home remedy using baking soda. Do so by mixing one part of water to three parts of baking soda and apply it over the affected area of the skin. Wash it off after a period of thirty minutes. Remember if your skin allergy is for a longer duration, you must consult a doctor.

Hair,Anti lice Medication And Shower Gel

Here are some questions and answers about hair,anti lice medication and shower gel are following below :


Q: I have long hair that I wash twice a week. I normally tie it in a knot (a tangled mass in hair,wool,etc). In summer and during the rainy season I find that I get an unpleasant smell. What should I do? Nina Wilson

A: Dandruff and fungal (comes from fungus meaning is any of a large group of spore-producing organisms which feed on organic matter ) infections increase during the summer and rainy season. Ensure that your hair is not damp when you tie it up. We always care and dry it in winter but in summer we tend to tie it up while it is still damp. Also when at home you should open and air your hair to get rid of the smell. There are fragrances for the hair if that is what you like. A last rinse of water with a bit of lemon juice is also good to give a fresh, clean, citrus smell to your hair.
Q: I have a young daughter who invariably brings lice (comes from louse which meaning is a small wingless parasitic insect which infests human skin and hair ) from school. When I have the problem it is embarrassing. What do I do? Hina

A: Anti-lice medication is the right thing to do. Apply on the scalp and leave for the time indicated; rinse well later. This routine needs to be repeated as many times as the product requires. Try hair packs with nourishing protein ingredients to counter any negative effects of lice treatment.

Q: I was recently gifted a hydrating shower gel and my friend told me to use it at night for best results. I find that it leaves a film on my body and wonder if it is natural. Nicole kidman

A: Well, it depends on the ingredients. Some of the moisturising shower gels are meant to leave some residue on the skin. The first step is to check the ingredients and then use. Don’t scrub and rub a shower gel like an ordinary soap. Take a small amount and rub it in small circular motions to get the surface dirt off. Remember even soaps that are expected to moisturise leave residues behind. As long as there is no skin outbreak, it is safe to use such products.

Q: I have a skin problem that causes large greyish–white patches on my back. They tend to itch when I feel hot and when I perspire or when I am stressed. It is extremely uncomfortable. Could you suggest some remedies? Ricky Martin

A: You should consult a dermatologist, though it probably may not be of major concern. A grey, white patch on the skin may be caused by several things. Sometimes a small area of skin becomes irritated and develops mild eczema (a medical condition in which patches of skin become rough and inflamed with blisters which cause itching and bleeding) it could also be an allergy. You should consult a doctor, who will prescribe medication after examining it.

Makes A Good Sex

Everyone has a different opinion of what makes good sex. A fairly scientific sounding explanation of good sex follows:

For most people, good sex has an element of sensual eroticism (sexual desire or excitement). It often is initiated to satisfy lustful desire, or sexual tension between two people. As they begin to become aroused, and begin having intimate contact,they stimulate (apply or act as a stimulus to) each other even more. Then they progress to heavier foreplay, enough so that both people feel turned on and ready for sex. They might both have a mastery of sexual technique so that the lust they feel can be satisfied through their sex acts and their orgasms. There may also be some emotional peak, some moment where they feel in love with the sex acts they are performing and in love with the moment, which is sometimes translated to feeling in love with the person they are doing it with. Throughout the sex act, the people will feel sexual intensity and freedom. They will be absorbed in the act, not questioning, not anticipating, not worrying, not analyzing…just into having sex. After good sex, the feelings of relaxation, safety,satisfaction, bliss and love are often present.

The only way you can really know if the person you are attracted to will be good in bed is by
having sex. However, there are some things you can look for to determine if the person has a
positive attitude toward sex and therefore could be a good lover. Keep your eyes open for
someone who:

• is comfortable with his or her body.
• talks about sex openly, but not crudely.
• has a sense of fun and adventure.
• uses birth control and/or condoms properly.

Are You Eligible Or Can You Create Lust and Sexual Compatibility

Usually, lust(strong sexual desire or a passionate desire for something) and sexual compatibility are things that just exist without much
definition. When you glance over at a stranger, you may feel lust without knowing exactly why. It has a little bit to do with the way the person looks, and a bit to do with the way the person moves, smells, sounds, as well as what you like.Then when things “just click,” you know you're compatible.But what if you want (or already have) a relationship with someone who is really great, but who turns you off physically? It is possible to feel sexually aroused around someone who isn't really your type. There are ways that you can learn to be turned on to someone who normally turns you off. Try to find some little thing about the person that you like, then try to feel turned on by that. If that works,then maybe little by little you will start to get more turned on to the person.So give it a chance. However, if after several weeks or months (years?) you still can't get into the person, then it is probably time to move on. If you aren't turned on to someone, maybe it's just not meant to be.

Also, you can sometimes influence your compatibility by making compromises about the type of sexual behaviors you enjoy. If the person has what it basically takes to turn you on but does not fit your ideal for the type of sex you like to have,you can work together to slightly alter what each of you desire out of your sex
life, thereby creating some sexual compatibility. However, it is not good for you to sacrifice what you really want from your sexual relationship. If you are compromising too much, then you should conclude that you are not compatible and move on.


What Do You Find Sexy?

To determine even more about how you can have interesting and amazing sex, you need to figure out what “sexy” means to you. One way to do this is to construct a sexual scene that you would want to be part of. I do not mean a “sexual fantasy,” because
sometimes you do not want to act out your sexual fantasies . Instead, think of an actual sexual scene that you are 100 percent sure that you would want to act out, or even your favorite sexual experience of all time. After you examine your example, you will notice all of the things that you find sexy.



Here's an example of how one woman did this exercise: She tried to think off the
top of her head about what is sexy to her. Starting with the most basic descriptions, I asked her to get as detailed as she could. Here's what she said, “I find tall, dark, handsome men sexy. I'd like him to be 6'1”. He should have a lot of wavy hair. His skin should be smooth and deeply tanned. He should be wearing red silk boxers and nothing else. He should be holding two glasses of champagne (a white sparkling wine from champagne),one for him, one he hands to me. He is sitting with me on the porch of his house.Then after we toast ‘to us,’ he says, ‘I love you.’ He kisses me with lots of tongue,gently carries me into the house and lays me down on his bed. He slowly, tantalizingly(comes from tantalize which meaning is torment or tease with the sight ) removes my clothes. Then he says to me,‘I'm gonna do you so hard you'll scream(make a long,loud,piercing cry or sound expressing extreme emotion or pain) for more.’ I say, ‘Do me, baby. Do me.’ Then we have lots more sexy talk and we have sex for hours and hours in every position imaginable(possible to be thought of or believed).”The woman who came up with that scene then took a look at all of the things that she found
sexy: a tall man, wavy hair, soft tan skin, silk boxers, his bed, champagne, tongue kissing, when a man takes her clothes off her, romance, love, sexy talk, sexual consent, and having sex for a long time in lots of different positions. This helped to give her a better idea of what she wants,what to look for, and when she finds it, how she can allow herself to actually have that sexual experience. Try this activity a few times, with a few different scenarios(a setting,in particular for a work of art ), and see what you come up with for your own ideas on what's sexy.If you have a fantasy of your ideal sexual partner, then you are on the way to making that fantasy a reality. Visualization(make visible to the eye) can work, so try to visualize what you think is sexy, and you may get closer to finding it. Now that you are figuring out what you find sexy, you're on your way to having interesting and amazing sex. Plus, you will be given more examples about how to ask for what you want sexually.For now, you just need to keep a positive attitude about sex. You need to most importantly see yourself as sexy! Then find a partner who thinks you are as sexy as you are!

What Is Sexual Compatibility

One of the secrets to amazing and interesting sex is having a partner who also wants amazing and interesting sex. If you are single, you'll have to begin the search by dating and taking notice of what's good for you. If you are already in a relationship, then you might have to create the sex life that you'd love to have with your partner.Choosing a lasting sex partner is not always easy. Sometimes the person you are initially attracted to, who you think might be a great sex partner, may actually turn out to be a dud(an ineffectual person).It takes some time and effort to figure out what makes sex good for you, and to know what makes a partner good for you.Aligning yourself with a compatible sexual partner can pave the way to a more committed
relationship.Yet even the most casual relationship is still a relationship. Unless you are just looking for a one night stand, your sex partner should have qualities you enjoy and that turn you
on.


Finding Someone Who Turns You On

The biggest complaint I hear from people is that they can't find someone who's right for them.
Finding a partner is not easy. Everyone has his or her fair share of sad, lonely nights when Ben
and Jerry offer the closest thing to companionship. But do not give up hope. There's someone out there who's right (enough) for you. You just have to keep looking.In your quest for a compatible partner, you need to allow time and effort to find this person. First, start by meeting as many people as you can. Following are some typical ways that people meet:

• in high school or college
• at work
• through friends or family
• at a club, sport, or activity
• at church or synagogue
• through a personal ad, dating service, or the Internet
• at a bar or party
• through a chance meeting

There are some fundamental elements of compatibility that you should be careful
to examine when you meet someone new. Some of these include:

• intellectual—you should be smart enough for each other.
• emotional—you should have the same values about love.
• work—you should have similar work ethics.
• family—you should be accepting of each other's family, and have similar ideas about how you would like to raise a family in the future.
• spirituality—you should either share each others religious beliefs,or be accepting of each other's religious differences.
• social life—you should have similar outlooks on how much and in what ways you like to socialize.
• money—you should share the same values about money.
• sex—you should like the same things sexually, and you both have to be
interested in having sex with each other.

once joked, “What is a date really but a job interview that lasts all night. The only difference between a date and a job interview is that there are not many job interviews where there is a chance you'll end up naked by the end of it.”
And that's true. When you start dating someone, you have to interview the person to determine if you are compatible. Ask lots of questions, and try to perceive what his or her personality is generally like. You should find out if you both.


want the same things out of your relationship, and the same things out of life. If you find someone you like, let the relationship evolve(develop gradually). It takes time to get to know someone, and to find out if it's more than just an attraction. If things seem to be working out, maybe you two will even end up naked together.If you have a bad feeling that someone you're dating is not good for you, then you're probably right. You don't always have to wait to find out that a potential partner could mean trouble.Go with your instincts. Yet if you can't tell, look for some early warning signs. The following qualities will not only make for bad sex,
they will also make for a bad relationship. Avoid someone who:





• is an alcoholic, drug addict, or has other addictions.
• is constantly talking about an ex-boyfriend, ex-girlfriend, ex-wife or ex-husband.
• will not commit to only you.
• demands sex or sex acts that you do not want to do.
• is violent or abusive.

If you meet someone who has those negative qualities, or even someone who simply doesn't fulfill your needs, then let go of the hope that this is the one, and move on. You should not stay in a relationship that's not right for you, because
then you are missing out on finding one that is right for you. It may seem overwhelming and impossible at times, but you'll most likely find love and a great sexual partner at some point in your life. I will be hoping that the next person you meet is the one!

What Is Difference Bteween Casual Sex and One Night Stands

There are some people who think that sex between near strangers is more exciting
than sex between people who are in love. Sometimes one night stands and casual
sex can be really hot. The initial sexual attraction that you have for someone new
cannot be repeated. When you take that fierce(violent or aggressive,ferocious), sexual charge and immediately act on it, sex can be very passionate. However, casual sex can carry physical consequences. You should always use birth control in addition to condoms for disease protection so that you are reducing the risk of pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases. For people who practice safer sex, and who love casual sex,it seems like sex with no strings attached!You might find great pleasure in the heat of the moment, but what about the emotional consequences? If you're someone who can emotionally deal with having someone inside your body or being inside somebody's body without it touching you deeply, then you're probably fine with having casual sex. Yet if you're someone who thinks that sex touches you in a way that nothing else can(literally and metaphorically speaking) you're probably not a good candidate for a quick roll in the hay with a near stranger.



If you can honestly detach yourself emotionally from sex, not care if you ever see
the person again after you do it, and stay protected from sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy, then sex without love might be amazing for you. To determine this, you should completely think through how you will feel the next day, or the next week about your choice. If you might feel depressed and lonely after having casual sex, then save yourself that pain. Even if the orgasm feels terrific during sex, if you'll feel horrible afterwards, it's never worth it. Do your
best to never do anything sexually that you will regret. If you think that you will feel great about your choice to have casual sex, then go for it.
Finally, be sure of your expectations when you have sex. Just because your body is filled up doesn't mean your heart, your mind, or your spirit will be. If your expectations involve having a relationship that goes beyond just being sex partners, then wait until you have that—whether that means waiting until you are in love, or not.



When Is the Timing Right?

There is no “right” time to have sex with someone.You need to decide for yourself if you feel close enough to the person to want to be the most intimate you can be. You have to consider your values about casual sex, sex and love, as well as what you are looking for out of the relationship.

Ever hear that old expression “Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free”?Some people believe that jumping in the sack too soon makes for a relationship that's based only on sex, and it will not have the potential for a long-term commitment. It can be confusing if you become physically intimate with someone before you have established emotional intimacy(close familiarity or friendship,an intimate act,especially sexual intercourse). That disparity could cause you to wonder where your relationship is going, before you have even had the chance to determine if this new sex partner is someone who you'd like outside of bed. Yet there are other people who believe that if they don't have sex by the third date,then the person they are dating will lose interest all together. Some people think that physical intimacy teaches you more about a new person than if you had had hours of conversation.


In order to deal with this predicament(a difficult situation), you should determine your own set of rules about when it is right to have sex with someone. Then stick to them, no matter what. In the long run, if you make a decision about when to have sex with a new partner and you stick to it, you will be happier than if you just improvise.

General Physician

Q: I am a 45-year-old male suffering from constipation. I exercise regularly and walk everyday, despite that my constipation doesn’t decrease. Please help.Michael Caine

A: Irregular bowel habits and constipation are the first symptoms of a physiological (the branch of biology concerned with the normal functions of living organisms and their parts or the way in which a living organism or bodily part functions ) imbalance. One may also experience constipation due to conditions like: pelvic floor dysfunction, inadequate amounts of fiber in your diet, ignoring the urge to have a bowel movement, lack of physical activity, Irritable Bowel (the intestine ) Syndrome (a group of symptoms which consistently occur together),changes in lifestyle and travel, certain systemic diseases and medications, under-active thyroid, anal fissures and haemorrhoids, injuries to the spinal cord and so on. Reduce your intake of lentils and sprouts; include more beans, whole grains, fresh fruits and vegetables; drink plenty of water throughout the day. In the morning, drink a glass or two of warm water with husk. If the problem persists, you must consult a doctor, who will advise some medication accordingly.

Q: I’m 15 years old and would like to know how to overcome an urge that’s bad for you and has become a habit (like biting nails)? I know that it’s bad and unhealthy but I can’t seem to stop. I want to and have tried to stop myself, but to no avail. I really don’t want anyone else helping me and finding out about this habit, not even a counselor. How can I do this alone? Please help? Shayaan

A: The simplest way to stop is not to try stopping it. The first thing to do is to identify what makes you want to do it and consider just how bad you will feel after. Be aware of the trigger and then divert your attention and do something else instead. It’s a life skill that we adults use in all sorts of situations.
Q: I have a four-year-old who has Down’s syndrome. My older sister has four wonderful kids without disabilities. She’s always been competitive, and her toddler is already surpassing my son development wise. For example, I said I was starting to potty train my son, and she began bragging that her youngest already uses the potty. This sort of response happens a lot. Should I tell her that I feel hurt ? Ammara
A: You should absolutely tell her that your feelings are hurt. She’s being a dolt and needs to know it. If she must compete with you, tell her to do it otherwise, but demand she leave the kids out of it. Then return to your good work of loving and protecting your son.

Q: Can a couple be too close? My husband and I work in the same company, drive together, meet for lunch, and email each other. If I don’t page him every hour, he calls to check up on me. If I spend an evening with friends, he complains. I love him, but after two years of marriage, I feel trapped; any words of wisdom? Nicole Kidman

A: What you’re describing is not a close relationship, but an obsessive one. If you want your marriage to last another two years, plan time for yourself and with your friends that does not include your husband – and tell him to do the same. As for words of wisdom, here goes: It’s much better to be apart and wish you were together than to be together and wish you were apart.

Q: My wife and I moved to a new house and met a couple who copy everything we do. If we buy something, they buy it too. My wife got a new haircut; the woman styled hers the same way. What’s going on?Arnold Schwarzenegger

A: Two possibilities: Your neighbours are aliens from another planet, learning to act as humans. Or they are regular folks who think you and your wife are very cool, and want to be just like you. Style cloning is a bit creepy, but don’t sweat it. Be polite and keep your distance. They’ll start mirroring others soon.

Q: My son lost his business and stopped coming to family parties where gifts are exchanged. He says he can’t afford it and doesn’t want to be a free-loader. How can I get him to come? We want his kids to get presents and have fun too.Tom Cruise

A: Send a cheque to him privately and show confidence that he’ll get back on his feel. Then throw a “no presents” party for the whole family.

What Is Monogamy And How Its Work:

the practice of being married to or having a sexual relationship with only one person at a time.or the habit of having only one mate at a time.
There are some people who only want to have sex in a committed, monogamous,
loving relationship.If that's your choice, great! But when it comes to monogamy,a sexually exclusive relationship, the main question is: Can it really work?

Monogamy can work if and only if both people are completely committed to staying together and only being sexual with each other. During the first year or two of a relationship, a couple is usually only interested in being with each other because they are still relatively new to each other. It's after that when the
temptation (the state of being tempted,a desire to do something or a temping thing) seems to get stronger. If you're honest with yourself and honest with each other, you can take any outside sexual interest and channel that energy back into your monogamous relationship. That way an affair will never begin, because you are focusing on the two of you only.
One of the most wonderful benefits of a committed monogamous relationship is that the longer you are together, the more you get to know your partner's body and sexual response. You know exactly how to make each other feel great. Also,because you probably have developed a lot of trust, you may be willing to experiment with creative sexual activities together. You may feel uninhibited around each other, thus leading to more openness in the ways you express
yourself sexually.

Using new and creative sexual positions, fantasies, and open conversation,couples can help keep monogamous sex exciting.
Have fun and enjoy the fact that you are with one sexual
playmate (a person's lover) for life.

Diet Vitals

Here are some answer and question from different kind of people about dietary vitals.

Diet Sugar

Q: I am dieting and I want to lose some weight; I drink tea two times a day. Can I use diet sugar in place of white sugar. Currently I am using 1/2tsp honey in one cup of tea. I cannot give up tea. So please suggest some alternatives for diet sugar. Jennifer Lopez.

A: If you are taking 1/2 teaspoon honey two times a day, you will be consuming 22 kilo calorie that the body can burn without any difficulty and it would not make any considerable difference. In comparison to white sugar and sweeteners, it is healthier to use honey. Among artificial sweeteners, stevia is considered to be safer than others but there is a need of further research. There is some ongoing controversy over whether the use of artificial sweeteners poses health risks. I would suggest you to continue the use of honey. But in case you want to switch to a sweetener, stevia is the best option.

Fish Risks

Q: I’ve heard that sometimes eating fish is harmful. What are the risks associated with eating fish? Angelina jolie

A: Contamination of fish with mercury(the chemical element of atomic number 80,a heavy silvery-white liquid metal used in some thermometers and barometers) is a health issue of great concern. Research findings suggests that modest consumption of fish e.g. 7-10 ounces per week can chronically expose a person to low levels of mercury. But interestingly, there are different forms of mercury which may affect the health differently. For example, mercury from fish is found in a form that is absorbed readily. Although we cannot control the type of mercury found in fish, we can help our body detoxify (abstain or help to abstain from drink and drugs until the bloodstream is free of toxins) the potent forms of mercury. Glutathione (comes from glutamate meaning is a salt or ester of glutamic acid or monosodium gultamate ) peroxidase (GPO) is an enzyme that detoxifies mercury in our body. To have plenty of GPO, we need to have a healthy and balanced diet and in addition a good supply of selenium, because it is needed for the proper functioning of GPO. Sources of selenium include cod, shrimp, snapper, tuna, halibut, and salmon.



Eating Beans

(the edible sprouting seeds of certain beans):

Q: I experience flatulence after eating beans. Why do foods like beans give intestinal gas? Scarlett Johansson.

A: Flatulence (intestinal gas) can occur as a result of many combined factors and not just the food. Beans and other high fiber food can cause intestinal gas because they aren't easily broken down in the digestive tract. Under certain circumstances, high-fiber foods undergo extensive breakdown by bacteria in our digestive tract (mostly in the large intestine) and the result is flatulence. Oligosaccharides (a carbohdrate whose molecules are composed of a relatively small number of monosaccharide units) constitute part of the digestion-resistant substances in beans, and are broken down by the bacteria in large intestine to cause intestinal gas. Soaking beans before cooking them can help reduce the oligosaccharide levels in beans. It is recommended to discard the soaking water, and then refill the pot with fresh water before cooking. Cumin, fennel, and ginger are among the spices that are especially effective in preventing the formation of gas, adding them in beans may be helpful.

Ripe Papayas

of fruit or grain ready for harvesting and eating(of a cheese or wine) fully matured and a fruit shaped like an elongated melon,with edible orange flesh and small black seeds or the fast growning tree which bears papayas,native to warm regions of America (Carica papaya).

Q: I bought green papayas and tried to ripen them by spreading on a tray and leaving for a few days; occasionally turning them. They did ripen but were not of good quality. Can you please suggest other methods of ripening papayas? Ricky Ponting.

A: Another way to ripen papaya is to place them in a paper bag for 2-3 days. Keep the bag in a dark and cool place because excessive heat would cause the papaya to rot rather than ripen. Turn the papayas occasionally. The ethylene gas produced by the papaya would be collected in the bag. This ethylene gas helps papaya to ripen more quickly while the paper bag allows a healthy exchange of oxygen. Adding a banana an apple or an avocado to the bag would speed up the ripening process because they increase the amount of ethylene gas. After the papayas are ripe you can refrigerate till use. Never refrigerate the unripe papaya, if you want to ripe them later.

Polyphenols

Q: What are polyphenols? What foods contain them and how significant are they in terms of diet? Ricky Martin

A: Polyphenols are a group of chemical substances that are found in plants and are characterised by the presence of more than one phenol unit or building block per molecule. They are considered to be the most important group of nutrients because of their antioxidant,anti-inflammatory, and anticancer properties. Grains and beverages like tea and coffee provide high quantity of polyphenols. In the fruit group, dark plums, cherries, dark grapes, and apples are found to be the most concentrated sources of polyphenols followed by strawberries, blueberries, blackberries, raspberries, and cranberries. Among vegetables, rhubarb and red cabbage contain polyphenols.

From Attraction to Love and Sex

When you first meet someone, you go through stages to determine if you're interested in that person. If that initial attraction is strong enough, you'll probably be interested in seeing each
other again. That desire is usually based on physical attraction, but you could decide to see each other again because of social or intellectual reasons.

Once you get past the initial attraction, you talk and spend time together to try to determine if
your lifestyles, values, and interests are in sync(synchronization or synchronize). This is the time when you will be able to see if the person you've been fantasizing (indulge in daydreaming about something dersired) about will be a good partner for you. However, you have to be careful during this phase. If love can be blind, then lust most certainly is blind. You might find yourself overlooking qualities in this potential partner that you normally wouldn't dream of standing for. So you have to open your eyes and try to be honest with yourself about how you would really see this person if you would remove the blinders of lust ( strong sexual desire and a passionate desire for some thing or chiefly theology a sensuous appetite regarder as sinful ).

Finally, once you have gotten to know each other over a period of days, weeks or months, and if the attraction is still there, you have reached the point where you determine what roles you will play in each other's lives. In other words, if that person just wants casual sex but you want marriage, then it won't work out for long. But if you both have the same roles in mind, your sexual partnering is off to a good start.


Does Love Affect Sex?

Many people will tell you that when they mix sex with love, they are experiencing the most amazing and interesting sex possible. However, there are some people who will say that wild, passionate sex happens best with a complete stranger someone they absolutely do not love. In other words,love affects sex. The presence or absence of love makes a difference. You need to learn for yourself if you need love to have amazing and interesting sex .


Think back to the beginning of a relationship you've been in (or are in now). The throes of infatuation(be infatuated with) be inspired with an intense but short-lived passion for) may be familiar to you. Maybe you had sex before you were sure you were in love.How did that affect your relationship?Was your relationship based only on sex?Or did it blossom(a flower or a mass of flowers on a tree or bush,the state or period of flowering) into love?Some people think that if a couple waits to have sex until they feel they are really in love (perhaps months or even years), then their relationship will become deeper without being based
on sex. Also, when you wait until you are in love, sex can be more intense and more meaningful.If you are in love, while you are having sex, you can look deeply into your partner's eyes and feel a deep connection with each other. Some people feel like they are practically melding(comes from meld meaning is blend,combine) together during sex when they are in love. It's not like they are just “doing it.” Sex without love may be “wham(used to express the sound of a forcible impact or the idea of a sudden and dramatic occurrence),bam(used to imitate the sound of a hard blow or convey the idea of something happening abruptly), thank you, ma'am.” But sex with love is “making love.

If you are the type of person who likes it when your partner can look into your eyes and say, “I
love you,” during sex, then you'd probably prefer sex with love. It you are the type of person
who doesn't like any of the romance of love mixed with your sex, then you don't need love to
have sex.

Of course that's not to say that when you are in love, every time you have sex has to be some
kind of mushy(a soft,wet,pulpy mass,cloying sentimentatlity,north American thick maize porridge),romantic love fest. Having sex when you're in love doesn't always mean that you're having sex to show love. Sometimes sex expresses other feelings. For example, a couple who are in love might have sex just to express their pure physical desire. They might just want to tear each other's clothes off and do it wildly without wasting time looking in each other's eyes.Or maybe they will just have sex to help them both fall asleep at night. Or maybe they will have sex based on forgiveness, like “make-up sex” after a fight, or sex for barter (such as,“You do the dishes and we can have sex later).They could have sex for hundreds of reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with love. So even if you are in love, sex is not always about love.


Whether you need to be in love before you have sex, or you'd prefer to have sex without that commitment, do yourself a favor and try to find partners who feel the same so you won't end up disappointed or disappointing your partner. You have to talk about it with your potential partner in order to be sure you both want the same thing. Just be confident and casual when you bring up the topic. Say something like, “Because we are getting close, let's talk about our feelings for each other.” Then say how you feel about your partner and explain your view on the issues of sex with or without love. Then listen to your partner's response. If you both agree to the terms of the sexual relationship, then you have found a sex partner who might be right for you.